Families For Life | A guide to teenage puberty for parents
Puberty is a turbulent period all teens go through. During this critical period of growth, your guidance and support can turn it into a positive journey of self-discovery and confidence. Learn how to help your teens navigate through the changes they face!
Opening a Conversation
Opening honest and supportive conversations before the changes begin can help prepare your teens for what is ahead, making the experience less confusing or overwhelming. When they know what to expect, they are more likely to feel confident and secure in their own bodies. Starting conversations about puberty doesn’t have to be awkward or uncomfortable.
One way to start a conversation is by using the three-step process. First, find out how much they know about their physical developments. You could ask, ‘Do they talk about puberty or body changes at school?’ and ‘What do they say?’ Second, gently share accurate information to clear up any misunderstandings or confusion. Finally, make sure your child feels safe, heard, and comfortable to share any questions or concerns.
Explaining Puberty
To fully support your child in this important stage of their life, remind them that all bodies grow and change in their own unique way. This is crucial to help them build their self-acceptance and confidence. Reinforce that everyone develops at their own pace, and that there’s no ‘right’ way to look or grow, just what’s right for them. As their bodies change, some teens may prefer more personal space or privacy, and that’s completely natural. Respecting their need for independence shows that you trust them, and it helps them feel more comfortable and secure in their own skin.
Finding Your Child’s Self-Esteem During Puberty
Building your child’s self-esteem during puberty can create confidence and healthy decision-making. When teens feel good about who they are, they are more likely to make choices that reflect their strengths and values.
Self-esteem develops early on in life, so help your child nurture theirs with consistent encouragement and support. Celebrate your child’s efforts, no matter how small, and focus on the qualities that make them unique. Encourage them to try new things and let them know you are proud of their willingness to grow!
Healthy Lifestyle Choices
During puberty, bodies tend to change a lot in a short period of time. Encouraging a healthy lifestyle can help your teen feel more comfortable and confident in their growing body. Support them in staying active by finding ways to enjoy physical activities together, whether indoors or outdoors. Aim for at least 60 minutes of movement each day to support both physical and mental well-being.
Puberty is a time of growth and change for both your child and you as a parent. Walk alongside your teen through their adolescent years by staying informed, offering comfort, modelling healthy habits and body confidence, and respecting their need for personal space to grow into who they’re meant to be.
Resources:
https://www.healthhub.sg/live-healthy/help-your-child-cope-with-puberty-and-self-esteem