Families For Life | Good Wifey, Good Mummy, Good Gosh!

Motherhood and marriage – many of us think of them almost interchangeably; two roles that seamlessly coexist with each other. However, as many veteran mums will know, that’s not the case!

Balancing motherhood and marriage can be difficult. If both are important, which one are we supposed to prioritise? Learn more about your roles as a mother and a partner and find out how you can strike a balance that works for you.

I feel like a good mum! But am I a bad wife?

Dinner is made, the floors are clean, and you’ve successfully put your child to bed after their first ballet recital. As a mum, you might feel accomplished – and you should!

Being a mum often means sacrificing your time and energy to keep your little one properly cared for and happy. As you focus on creating a nurturing environment for your child, you might find yourself losing time and energy that you once spent bonding with your partner. This is normal. You’re doing great, and there’s no reason to feel guilty!

How can I tell if I’m more mum than wife?

If you’re having doubts about whether you’re spending enough time with your spouse, communicate!

However, we know it can be daunting to ask your partner to sit down with you for a serious talk. Try using tools like Our Marriage Journey Quiz to help you and your partner get a better understanding of each other’s needs and expectations and gain insights into the dynamics of your relationship. 

By taking the quiz, both of you can identify areas of improvement and check whether you are getting sufficient positive bonding, communicating effectively, and setting clear expectations for each other. 

What can I do if my partner is unhappy? 

It’s important to speak openly with each other. Find out why they are unhappy and share your perspectives too! By doing so, you can better prioritise matters that are important for your relationship.

Don’t forget to find solutions that both of you can contribute to. You might find a way to split the work and get more time and energy for each other. Maybe you can find some we-time in raising your child together!

Balancing motherhood and marriage can be a juggling act. It’s okay to drop the ball sometimes as you prioritise important matters over those that are less urgent. Do your best to ensure that you and your partner are communicating and never be afraid to look for help or enrol in marriage programmes when you need to!