Families For Life | How To Grandparent For The First Time
Did you know that, according to Guinness World Records, Marianne Wallenberg, at 95 years old, was the oldest person to have ever become a first-time grandparent?
We are pretty sure you won’t be waiting that long to experience the joy and love, but what to expect when you do become a first-time grandparent? What part will you play in raising your grandchild? Will it be like parenting all over again? Is it all fun and games? Read on to get all your questions answered in what could be the “grandest” time of your life!
No, it’s not about parenting all over again
The best part about grandparenting is experiencing the love and joy of raising your grandchild without all the responsibilities of being his or her parent.
Although parents and grandparents play some similar roles, like providing love, support, guidance, and wisdom, parents tend to enforce discipline and are responsible for the general well-being of their grandchild.
You, on the other hand, will most likely be passing down traditions and values, providing companionship to your grandchild, and showering him or her with a whole lot of love, as only grandparents can!
Yes, it’s about you a well
It’s important to keep in mind that grandparenting is just one part of your life and your spouse’s. From work to hobbies and personal time, you have your own schedule to consider when balancing the needs of your grandchild with yours. If you are retired and have the time and energy, providing regular child care can enrich your life. If it is not possible to do so, consider other meaningful ways you can support your grandchild’s parents and spend time with your grandchild.
Communication is key
Discuss what your role will be in the life of your grandchild with their parents, to avoid any potential conflict that may arise. It would have been a long time since you looked after a baby, so ask them about the routines they would like to follow when caring for him or her.
Talk honestly about how much you can do for your grandchild so they can arrange for additional help if needed. Raising a child takes money, so talking about finances is also important. Remember that your grandchild's parent is your child too, so listening to their concerns and advising them as their parent is also part of grandparenting.
Your role will grow as they grow
Having grandchildren is a lifelong experience. It will evolve, from changing diapers to, one day, changing playlists on a music streaming platform. As they grow older, their needs and interests will change, and you’ll find that your role will change from carer to companion. Your interests, too, will be easier to share, such as cooking, music, sports, and other hobbies you and your grandchild can bond over. There’s so much to look forward to.
It's a cause for celebration
Being a first-time grandparent is truly a reason to celebrate. The birth of your grandchild will usher in a renewed sense of purpose and the opportunity to deepen your relationship with your own child. What’s heartwarming, too, is that Singapore values its grandparents and even celebrates them through the “Celebrating Our Grands” campaign, where intergenerational families can bond over meaningful activities and programmes across the nation.
There’s just so much to look forward to when you become a grandparent. So, whether you are 95 like Marianne or still working in a 9 to 5, get ready for the ride of your lifetime!