Families For Life | Is He Really Okay? Supporting Your Hubby's Mental Health

Did you know that globally, a man dies every minute from suicide? Men often see the need to be strong and, unfortunately, silent about their mental health. This Movember, you may not be able to grow a moustache to support the international movement about men’s health, but as a wife, here’s how you can help your hubby out with his mental health and well-being. 

Embrace the ‘stache

For the uninitiated, Movember is a global annual charity event to raise awareness and support for men’s physical and mental health. The movement focuses on issues like prostate cancer, testicular cancer, mental health, and suicide prevention. Hate it or love it, the moustache is an essential symbol in the Movember movement, as it shows he is ready to talk about and support the push for better health in men.

While you may not be able to grow one out, as a wife, you can show your hubby that you care about him by embracing when your man grows his out! You can also tell him you are ready to support him through his tough times and reaffirm your commitment to him as his lifelong partner!

Look out for these signs of depression

The first sign of depression for most people, including your husband, is a sudden change in his everyday habits or behaviour. Be alert for when he starts to cry or seem very angry often. He may seem to lack energy or interest in activities he used to enjoy. A loss of concentration or focus might be annoying, but it is a sign of a struggle with his mental health. He might go to bed too early and sleep more often or too little as well. 

Men should drink no more than two standard alcoholic drinks daily, and if your hubby is consuming way more, it could be a sign that something is wrong. You could also see a dip in intimacy as he starts to lose interest in sex. 

So, what can you do to help? Read on to find out.

Be ear for him

Taking the time to listen to your husband can truly make a world of difference. When you do, put away any digital distractions, make eye contact and give him your undivided attention. Avoid interrupting or offering solutions unless he asks for them. Sometimes, just having a listening ear is more than enough.

Better mental health starts from within  

A healthy gut leads to a healthy mind and boosts mental wellness. Use your powers of suggestion to get your husband to include oats, avocados, oily fish like salmon and dark chocolate (this one’s for you, too) in his diet.

Do something together. Play games, take on a new hobby, cook, watch TV, and do other activities that can re-energise and promote happiness. Exercise has also been proven to reduce stress. Try doing yoga together, going for a slow walk in the park, or letting him play more of his favourite sport with his friends.

Don’t be afraid to show some love to your husband, too. Hugs and holding hands have been shown to help improve mental and emotional health while bringing you closer to each other. Physical touch from a loved one (in this case, you) releases feel-good chemicals through the brain, defending against feelings of sadness and anxiety.

You can be a tremendous source of support for the man in your life, but if you think that your husband’s mental health isn’t doing too well or things are getting worse even with your support, it’s more practical for a mental health professional to take over. He may resist this notion, but persevere and perhaps start with your family physician. You can also call these numbers to receive help.

Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline (6389-2222)

Samaritans of Singapore (1800-221-4444)

Silver Ribbon Singapore (6385-3714)

Remember, it’s not easy being a pillar of support to your spouse, and you need to practice self-care, too. Rest well, eat healthy, and exercise regularly. If you need help with your mental health as well, call the numbers above!