Families For Life | Is it okay if I don't support my child's interests?

All parents want what’s best for their kids - a sentiment we’ve all probably heard before. However, what does “the best” entail? Is it defined by your vision of success, or is it something that makes your child happy and helps them thrive?

It’s important to remember that while you can guide your child down certain paths in life, they still have their own thoughts, feelings, and opinions. They might not always want to do what you envision for them, and that’s okay! Think back to when you were younger and had to attend a class you didn’t enjoy. Didn’t you wish you had a say and that your parents listened? Your child might harbour the same feelings!

When you validate and respect your child’s interests, you help them feel understood and accepted. This boosts their self-esteem and allows them to grow into more confident individuals. Furthermore, interests could be the key to unlocking hidden talents; you’ll never know if your child is the next Mozart if you dismiss every note they play!

Above all, letting your child enjoy what they like can create a wonderful bonding experience for the both of you. As you spend quality time together and strive to understand each other on a deeper level, you’ll grow closer and develop an unbreakable bond. So even if you don't fully support your child’s interests, don’t stand in their way. Do these instead!

Take an interest in your child’s interest

Talk to your child about their newfound hobby and ask what they enjoy about it. Encourage them to share any challenges they’re facing and the goals they hope to achieve. Help them weigh the pros and cons of pursuing this hobby, and suggest a few alternatives if it seems challenging to support. This process of open discussion will help both of you understand each other’s perspectives and is a healthier approach than simply shutting down their interest.


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hare your interests

As a significant figure in their lives, your child looks up to you. If you want to encourage them to explore certain pursuits, share your interests with them! Who knows, they might end up liking the same things you do. Just remember not to force anything on them; you're simply exposing them to what you enjoy.

Keep it simple

If you find yourself liking your child’s new interest and want to support it, be careful not to get too excited and overwhelm them with a barrage of after-school classes or workshops. This could quickly lead to burnout and might dampen their enthusiasm for future activities. Instead, encourage your child to explore their passions at a pace that feels comfortable for them.

Give them the tools they need

If your child is interested in playing the guitar, find a music teacher. If they’re drawn to ballet, shop for pointe shoes together. While it may not always be feasible to get your child everything they want or need, doing so for a few things shows that you support their passions, giving them the confidence they need to pursue them with enthusiasm and resilience. 

Even if your child decides down the road that this hobby isn’t for them, celebrate their willingness to try something new! Children often have a wide range of passions and curiosities. Let them explore and discover what they truly enjoy. Unless their interest poses a risk to their health or safety, there’s really no harm in giving it a shot!