Families For Life | Who should actually cook and clean in a marriage?

Picture coming home after a long day of work to the laundry right where you left them, dishes still in the sink, and dinner not cooked. When one person in a marriage ends up taking care of the household alone, it can sow feelings of dissatisfaction which may sprout trouble in paradise. 

Since the traditional roles of men as breadwinners and women as primary homemakers have evolved, the responsibility for household chores now falls on both partners.

Here are 4 ways to handle responsibilities with your spouse and strengthen your marital bond!

Learn about each other

While saying "I do" suggests a deep understanding of your partner, marriage entails discovering aspects you may not have initially considered important, such as their morning routine, their tolerance for messiness, or their willingness to participate in household chores.

If you need help getting to know each other again, this quiz is a good starting point to learn more about your marriage. Use it as an opportunity to communicate and address areas for growth to foster harmony in your life together.

Embrace flexibility 

Compile a list of all chores and errands that need attention, then collaboratively assign responsibilities. Consider each other's interests and strengths, leveraging this newfound understanding gained through learning more about each other. Keep in mind that these assignments are flexible and can be adjusted based on weekly schedules and changing preferences.

It’s also good to allow your spouse to tackle their tasks in their preferred manner. If certain aspects trouble you, communicate openly and establish expectations, but remain open to compromise and avoid rigidity.

Share the load 

Not all chores are created equal. Certain tasks demand more time, others involve travel, and some are simply burdensome, leading to both of you avoiding them. While it’s good for each of you to have your own set of tasks to do, they don’t need to be divided perfectly down the middle. 

Instead of trying to figure out how to split these “harder” chores, why not share them? Sharing chores makes tasks more enjoyable! On top of that, you get to spend quality time together while being productive.

Be responsible

When tackling your assigned chores, complete them wholeheartedly. This builds trust with your spouse and boosts marital satisfaction. A little effort goes a long way in deepening your bond and connection. After all, it's the little things you do that make the biggest difference!