Families For Life | Parents, Screen Time and Digital Technology Use: Role-modelling for Children-Young Children
Young children learn by watching the adults around them. This includes how we use our phones, tablets, TVs, and other digital devices. The habits you practise today can shape your child's attitude towards technology in the years to come.
Your Child Is Watching You
Preschoolers often copy what they see. If they notice you balancing screen use with other activities such as reading, exercising, playing, or spending time together as a family, they learn that technology is just one part of everyday life.
On the other hand, if screens constantly demand your attention, children may start to see devices as more important than face-to-face interactions.
When Technology Gets in the Way
Sometimes, technology can interrupt meaningful moments between parents and children. For example, checking messages during a conversation, meal, or playtime can make children feel ignored.
When children struggle to get their parents' attention, they may become frustrated, whiny, restless, or irritable. Giving your child your full attention, even for short periods, helps them feel valued and connected.
Modelling Healthy Technology Habits
Healthy technology use is about balance. It is not only about how much time you spend on devices, but also how you use them.
Here are some ways to set a positive example for your child:
Create device-free family moments, such as during meals, bedtime routines, or family outings.
Finish conversations before checking your phone or other devices.
Avoid bringing phones and tablets into the bedroom at night.
Turn off the television when no one is actively watching it.
Spend time each day doing non-screen activities together, such as reading, playing outdoors, drawing, or doing simple household tasks.
Set family guidelines for screen use and follow them consistently as a parent.
Reflect on Your Own Screen Habits
Take some time to think about how technology fits into your daily routine. Are there moments when you could put your device aside and be more present with your child?
Small changes, such as checking your phone less often or setting aside screen-free family time, can make a big difference. When your child sees you using technology thoughtfully and in moderation, they are more likely to develop healthy digital habits too.
Key Takeaway
Children learn more from what we do than what we say. By showing balanced and thoughtful technology habits, you can help your preschooler develop a healthy relationship with screens while making more time for family connection, play, and learning.