Families For Life | Calling Out and Getting Out of Bed-Young Children
Children aged 4 to 6 may delay bedtime by calling out, coming out of their room, or repeatedly asking for things after lights out. These behaviours are common and are often linked to developing independence, worries about being alone, changes in routine, or a desire to spend more time with family.
Build Strong Bedtime Habits
A regular bedtime routine helps children understand that it is time to sleep. Activities such as showering, brushing teeth, reading together, and having a quiet chat can prepare children for rest.
Try to keep the routine consistent, even on weekends. Avoid screen use and energetic activities close to bedtime, as these can make it harder for children to settle.
Children who regularly take more than 30 minutes to fall asleep may be going to bed too early. Consider adjusting bedtime slightly later and then gradually moving it earlier once they are falling asleep more easily.
Set Clear Expectations
Before leaving the room, remind your child of the bedtime rules in a calm and positive way. For example, you could say, "It's time to stay quietly in bed and rest."
A quick check-in a few minutes later can reassure your child and provide an opportunity for praise if they have stayed in bed.
Respond Calmly to Calling Out
If your child calls out, answer briefly and reassure them that you are nearby. Once you are confident they have everything they need, avoid giving extra attention that may encourage the behaviour to continue.
Children learn faster when parents respond consistently.
Return Your Child to Bed
If your child leaves the bedroom, calmly guide them back without lengthy explanations or negotiations. Keep your response short and predictable each time.
Consistency helps children learn that bedtime expectations do not change.
Try a "Bedtime Pass"
For children aged 4 years and above, a bedtime pass can be effective. Give your child one pass that may be exchanged for a reasonable request after bedtime, such as a drink of water, a hug, or a quick question.
Once the pass has been used, your child is expected to stay in bed. If they save the pass, they can earn a small reward the next day.
Managing Bedtime Anxiety
If your child seems worried about the dark, being alone, or separating from you, spend a little extra quality time together before bedtime. Reading, talking about the day, or sharing a calming activity can provide reassurance.
If bedtime fears are intense or persistent, speak with a healthcare professional for advice.
Encourage Success
Positive reinforcement works well at this age. Consider using a simple sticker or reward chart to celebrate staying in bed and following bedtime routines.
The next morning, focus on what your child did well. A positive start encourages them to keep practising good sleep habits.