You tell your toddler not to scribble on walls but he does. You ask your pre-schooler to get ready for school and she refuses. These moments may seem trivial but in the moment, patience can thin and both parent and child wind up upset and drained.The following pointers may help you manage your child's behaviour and daily routines:1. Recognise the challengeDisciplining your child is one of the many parenting challenges and unfortunately, not all children can be disciplined with the same approach. What you read about may work on other children just not yours and hence the challenge to find that one way which really has much to do with your child's temperament, age and stage of development.2. Focus on key issuesIt is no point picking on everything your child does disagreeably. Your child may insist on drinking only from the blue cup and not the red one, for instance. Or sulk when you make him wear that Spider-Man shirt (again!) to a birthday party. Before you get annoyed over this perceived petulance, ask yourself if this is what you want to pick on. Spare your energy instead for more important matters like safety and hygiene.3. Dislike the behaviour, but love the childPunishment for undesirable behaviour. Show your child love when addressing unacceptable behaviour. Punish the child and demonstrate the expected behaviour, but never alienate with hate. which will encourage it to understand that telling lies, hitting others, and rudeness are not just acceptable behaviour. Whatever way you choose to set boundaries or discipline your child, ensure that the message of love gets through first.4. Be consistent and clearYour child is more likely to listen if your instructions and rules are reasonable and clearly defined. "Put on your safety helmet before your ride your bicycle/ tricycle." If this is one of your non-negotiable rules, explain why the helmet is important and ensure there is consistent application of this rule. Don't change or 'forget' the rule just because you are busy, tired or find it too much trouble to implement it. By doing so, your child will be confused about what he is supposed to do.5. Work with your childAllow your child some autonomy. For example, if bedtime on a school night is 8pm and he has to complete a set of chores before lights out, let him have a say on how he'd like to order his chores. Whether it's keeping toys first then brushing his teeth or vice versa, let him have the freedom to choose. By giving your child a sense of control, he is more likely to stick to your rules and cooperate.6. Work with your spouseVery often in a household, one parent says no to certain things, but the other parent (knowingly or unknowingly) allows it. This lack of consistency confuses the child; whose instructions should he follow -- mummy's or daddy's? In other instances, when parents disagree about discipline matters in front of the child, the result is that one parent's authority could be eroded. Parents should agree on a set of rules and make sure the implementation, as a team, is consistent. By doing so, a child becomes more secure knowing where the parameters of his world lie.7. Stay in controlMaybe you've had a bad day at work or maybe your child's behaviour has been exceptionally trying. Whatever the reason, refrain from yelling, screaming, spanking. When you find yourself on the verge of losing your cool, walk away and take a deep breath. When you should or use harsh words, chances are it only escalates the problem. More than that, you are only showing your child that feelings cannot be controlled. One way to remind yourself to keep calm in the face of talk-backs or tantrums is to write yourself a note -- a Post-it stuck on the fridge or a digital note to self.8. Let there be consequencesWhile you don't want to go over the top with your discipline approaches, it is just as undesirable to be too permissive or tolerant. Let your child understand there will be consequences as a result of misbehaving. If the little one breaks a rule, issue a warning. Should he break the rule again, let him face the consequence, like a time-out or withholding of privileges, for instance. If your five-year-old has scribbled on the dining table with crayons even though you specifically told him not to do so, manage this misbehaviour by issuing the consequence: clean up or have your crayons removed for the rest of the day.9. Stand firmNo matter how tempted you are, do not give in to whining or tantrums. Impress upon your child that "no" means exactly that/ Be careful, too, about bribing your child. Examples of this include, "Pick up all your toys now and I'll buy you ice cream later." Such bribes are short-term solutions. It may work but your child will probably expect some kind of reward every time you want him to do something.10. The power of praiseOffer praise when your child keeps to boundaries and rules. Children have an innate desire to please their parents, so your positive reinforcement will boost self-esteem and encourage him to keep up the good behaviour. A pat on the back, high-five or hug should suitably convey your approval. To further track his achievements, you can put up a good-behaviour sticker chart to serve as a visual display of his progress. Once he's collected say, six stickers, he can exchange it for a small reward like a book or a trip to the park.11. Be positiveParents usually tell their children, "Don't run!" or "Don't talk so loudly!" Try communicating the message in a more positive way: "Do walk carefully as it's slippery." or "Speak gently as we don't want to disturb others."12. Be a good role modelHave you been nagging your child to stay away from junk food? Make sure you do the same, mum and dad! By setting a good example, your child will find it easier to model his actions after you.