School-age children come in all shapes and sizes, but child development between six and eight years typically has a few things in common. Here’s what your child might be doing, how you can help and when to seek help if you need it.School-age child development at 6-8 years: what’s happeningPlaying and learningYour child’s play is complex now, and he often plays out ideas he’s come across at school or in the media. For example, you might find yourself serving dinner to an elf, a rock star – or maybe even the Prime Minister!Because your child is better at controlling her own behaviour and emotions, she also copes better with games that involve rules, as well as winning, losing and playing fair.Your child enjoys making friends and being a friend. Friendships give him a sense of belonging and help him learn and practise basic social skills like sharing and negotiating.Friendships can also be challenging because friends can sometimes be bossy or cranky. Sometimes they might even leave your child out – for example, ‘If you play with Farhan you can’t be my friend anymore!’ Most of your child’s relationships will be positive, but keep an eye out for signs of bullying.FeelingsYour child wants to please the important adults in her life, like her parents and teachers, so doing things the ‘right way’ becomes very important to her. On the other hand, she might sometimes seem over-confident.Your child is more easily embarrassed and more sensitive to other people’s views and beliefs. In fact, your child has lots of empathy for family and friends when they’re distressed. But at times your child can be very self-critical and might need your help to focus on the things they do well.You might notice that your child is more aware of events she’s seen or heard on the news, like natural disasters. This growing awareness of the world can cause some anxiety and fear, so talking about tough topics can help your child make sense of things.Thinking
Talking and communicatingChildren can follow more complex directions and use language to explore their thoughts and feelings. The average eight-year-old learns about 20 new words per day, mostly through being read to or reading.Your child now has longer and more complex conversations, and you should be able to understand all of his speech.By 8, your child is learning to voice opinions. They also tell stories with plenty of energy and emotion. Your child can follow a simple recipe, write stories based on daily life, write an email or instant message, and read independently in bed at night.MovingYour child enjoys testing his physical limits and developing more complex moving skills, like running in a zig-zag pattern, jumping down steps, doing a cartwheel and catching small balls.Your child is getting better at combining gross motor skills like running to kick a ball or skipping while turning a rope. These physical skills depend on how often your child practises them. Structured sports like dance classes, tennis and soccer all help, but lots of opportunities to run, kick, throw, cartwheel and more are just as important.Your child’s fine motor skills are well developed now, so she can now brush her teeth and do other daily hygiene tasks without your help. She can cut out irregular shapes and write smaller letters inside the lines in her school books.Daily life and behaviourAt this age, your child’s life is all about his family, school, friends and after-school activities. He might enjoy collecting items like shells or small figurines.Your child’s morals and values are developing, and she might share strong opinions about whether things are right or wrong. She’ll also be more aware of what others are doing, which might lead to comparisons like ‘She’s better at drawing than me’ or complaints about siblings getting more than her.Your child is even more independent and wants more say in what he can and can’t do. As part of this independence, he enjoys doing more chores around the house – at least sometimes! But spending time with you is still important to him.At this age, your child might also:
Helping school-age child developmentHere are some simple things you can do to help your child’s development at this age:
Parenting a school-age childEvery day you and your child will learn a little more about each other. As your child grows and develops, you’ll learn more about what she needs and how you can meet these needs.In fact, as a parent, you’re always learning. Every parent makes mistakes and learns through experience. It’s OK to feel confident about what you know. And it’s also OK to admit you don’t know and ask questions – often the ‘dumb’ questions are the best kind!Your own physical and mental health is an important part of being a parent. But with all the focus on looking after a child, lots of parents forget or run out of time to look after themselves. Looking after yourself will help you with the understanding, patience, imagination and energy you need to be a parent.Sometimes you might feel frustrated or upset. But if you feel overwhelmed, put your child somewhere safe or ask someone to look after him for a while so you can take some time out until you feel calmer. Try going to another room to breathe deeply or call a friend or family member to talk things through.Never hit or verbally abuse a child. You risk harming your child, even if you don’t mean to.It is okay to ask for help. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your child, talk to your spouse, a family member, friends or seek professional help.When to seek helpSee your General Practitioner (GP) if you have any concerns or notice that your child has any of the following issues at 6-8 years.Communication and understanding Your child:
Behaviour and playYour child:
Everyday skillsYour child:
You should see a child health professional if at any age your child experiences a noticeable and consistent loss of skills she once had.Children grow and develop at different speeds. If you’re worried about whether your child’s development is ‘normal’, it might help to know that ‘normal’ varies a lot. But if you still feel that something isn’t quite right, see your GP.