Families For Life | 5 things your teen wants you to know
Remember what life was like as a teen? Juggling school, family, friends, and responsibilities at a young age – life was tough! Today, as parents with teens of our own, our perspectives have shifted and we see things from the other side.
It’s normal to stress about your relationship with your teen. On the surface, it might look rocky with frequent quarrels and less time spent together. This is all part and parcel of watching your child grow into an independent adult.
Hey, we were teens once. Let’s step back into those shoes as we look at some things your teen might want you to know. Read on to learn how you can deepen the bonds between you and your child!
#1 My body is changing; I’m sensitive about my appearance!
Physical changes may cause your teen to feel self-conscious about their appearance and others' perceptions of them.
While they’re in this phase, it’s important to be mindful of your comments regarding their appearance and the way they dress. Refrain from comparing them with others or pointing out differences. Do your best to reassure them that the changes they’re experiencing are perfectly normal!
To help them build their self-esteem, you can encourage them to engage in leadership roles at school, start a new hobby, or even pursue an interest together with you!
#2 My mood swings are not my choice!
Hormonal changes can lead to frequent mood swings during puberty. This may lead to repeated clashes between you and your teen which can be frustrating for both parties! In some cases, these mood swings might impact your child’s mental well-being.
What your teen needs is your listening ear. Be patient when they are being difficult and give them time to calm down. Remember to speak objectively and explain your stand carefully. Never be afraid to step away from the argument if things get heated and come back to it later when both of you are calm.
By learning to navigate your child’s moods, you can strengthen your relationship with your teen and help them feel heard when they need it most.
#3 I need some space to explore my independence!
Our teenage years are a time for us to explore our identity and establish a sense of self. Treat your teens as the maturing individuals they are becoming and respect the choices they make. While it may seem hard to let go, it’s important to give them your trust and let them make decisions for themselves.
#4 I’d love to share my life with you
While our teens brush us off sometimes, that doesn’t mean they don’t want us around! We can respect their space and privacy while still being involved in their lives.
Be interested in what your teens are into. A healthy amount of curiosity in their interests can help you bond better! Here, technology can be your friend. Social media sites like Facebook, Instagram, or TikTok play integral roles in your teen’s life and are important tools to keep in touch with your teen’s interests and behaviour in society.
By showing your interest and engaging with them, you can build a bridge between you and your teen.
#5 We’re family, I love you too!
It can be hard for parents when their child begins wanting more autonomy. At this stage, friends may become more important to them and have a larger influence over their thoughts and behaviours.
If it seems like you’re losing touch with your child, that’s not true! Teens need just as much love, support, and guidance as they did as a young child. Connect with them through simple gestures like family meals, and outings, or give them a hug! Once you reach an understanding, you’ll find that your relationship with your teen will have grown stronger too.
Managing teens can be tricky. Just remember to respect their privacy and give them space to grow! Show you care by communicating your interest in their activities and be their pillar of support when they need it. You got this!