Families For Life | Checking In: Supporting Your Partner's Mental Health

Many individuals often feel the need to appear strong and, unfortunately, remain silent about their mental health struggles. Mental well-being is crucial for everyone. Here are some ways you can support your partner's mental health and overall well-being:

Embrace open communication

Many couples find it challenging to discuss uncomfortable issues. Show your care by fostering open conversations with your partner. Create a safe space where you can both share your thoughts and feelings without judgement. Let your loved one know you're there to support them through tough times, reaffirming your commitment as their lifelong partner.

Look out for these signs of depression

The first sign of depression for most people is a sudden change in everyday habits or behaviour. Be alert for when your partner starts to cry or seem very angry often. Your partner may seem to lack energy or interest in activities they used to enjoy. A loss of concentration or focus might be a sign of a struggle with their mental health. Your partner might go to bed too early and sleep more often or too little as well. 

Excessive alcohol consumption or a significant dip in intimacy could also be warning signs.

So, what can you do to help? Read on to find out.

Be a compassionate listener

Taking the time to listen to your partner can truly make a world of difference. When you do, put away any digital distractions, make eye contact and give them your undivided attention. Sometimes, just having a listening ear is more than enough.

Better mental health starts from within  

A healthy gut leads to a healthy mind and boosts mental wellness. Use your powers of suggestion to get your partner to include oats, avocados, oily fish like salmon and dark chocolate (this one’s for you, too) in their diet.

Do something together. Play games, take on a new hobby, cook, watch TV, and do other activities that can re-energise and promote happiness. Exercise has also been proven to reduce stress. Try doing yoga together, going for a slow walk in the park.

Don’t be afraid to show some love to your partner, too. Hugs and holding hands have been shown to help improve mental and emotional health while bringing you closer to each other. Physical touch from a loved one (in this case, you) releases feel-good chemicals through the brain, defending against feelings of sadness and anxiety.

You can be a tremendous source of support for your partner, but if you think that their mental health isn’t doing too well or things are getting worse even with your support, it’s more practical for a mental health professional to take over. They may resist this notion, but persevere and perhaps start with your family physician. You can also call these numbers to receive help.

Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline (6389-2222)

Samaritans of Singapore (1800-221-4444)

Silver Ribbon Singapore (6385-3714)

Remember, it’s not easy being a pillar of support to your partner, and you need to practice self-care, too. Rest well, eat healthy, and exercise regularly. If you need help with your mental health as well, call the numbers above!