Families For Life | It takes a village to raise a child

Parenting can often feel like a solo journey. What you might not realise is that your child is surrounded by people who are involved in creating a happy, healthy environment for your little one to grow in. This community also forms the support system that parents need to provide the best care for their child. And that’s the meaning behind the proverb, “It takes a village to raise a child!”

We might not live in kampungs anymore, but the warm, loving community surrounding our children still exists. This includes extended family beyond your parents and in-laws, friends, and teachers at school. Let’s learn more about the people in your “village” and discover how they play a part in raising your child. 

Building Bonds with Extended Family

Our interactions with our relatives are different from those with friends or strangers. When aunts, uncles, and cousins come over, your child will pick up customs and values unique to your family and begin to build their own sense of a family too. Bonding with extended family also strengthens your child’s sense of belonging and self-esteem as they get the attention and affection from people who are not just their parents. 

For parents, extended family members are an important source of support. If you need a break, never be afraid to read out to them for help!

Developing Skills at School

A large part of your child’s time will be spent at school or in a care centre. Whether it’s with teachers, fellow schoolmates, or non-teaching staff, your child’s development is directly influenced by their interactions with this group of people.

Few can deny the impact of our teachers especially in early childhood! Early childhood educators are essential partners in raising your child, fostering emotional intelligence, social skills, and creativity! If you have concerns about your child at home, you can collaborate with your child’s teacher to explore better ways to support your child.

Finding Friends in the Neighbourhood

This last group consists of everyone in the area where your child is growing up. This includes your neighbours, support groups at community centres, and even the aunty managing the mama shop under your block!

This community may be especially influential if you do not have extended family members living nearby. Try building connections with those around you. Have a chat with your neighbours, join support groups, and spend time with your child at the nearby playground! Not only will your child be exposed to people who can help develop their social skills, but you can also build a network of people you can rely on in times of need.

Ultimately, your child isn’t growing up in a vacuum. It might not always be obvious, but the people around your little one are chipping in too! We all have that one adult who made an impact in our young life, and your child will have someone like that too. Once you’ve identified and connected with the people in your “village”, your parenting journey won’t feel so lonely anymore!